In love and life assumptions are an inevitable part of human behavior. We may consciously make the decision to assume things, or direct our energy towards the prevention of the assumptive mindset. Whether one chooses to enable or reject this behavior is dependent on their perspective and what lead up to the assumption they made. The problem with assumptions is that many people are not willing to take responsibility for the consequences of them after the fact. What I mean by this, is that many people will turn the blame on someone else the moment their assumptions are proven to be inaccurate. It's common to feel unsure of the proper approach to making an assumption, if ever you are in this position there is a phrase to help navigate the situation. In a situation where you cannot accurately predict the events of past, present, or future, simply ask yourself "If I'm completely wrong about this, am I willing to take responsibility for the way it turns out?" If you cannot say yes in your current circumstances then you need to address it with someone else who you believe the responsibility should be shared with. If you are assuming something about an individual, many times your questions will be for the person your assumption is about. Do not be afraid to let others know what you are assuming, as this is a great way to establish a better understanding. Communication results in clarity so long as it is done properly. The common illusion people are infatuated with, is the illusion that the assumptions MUST be true and therefore they feel afraid to face the truth. If you are afraid to confirm an assumption, there is a likelihood you already believe subconsciously your assumptions are not true; or that you will be embarrassed.
For those of you who have yet to understand how to catch yourself when you're making an assumption, know that In love this is commonly manifested in the form of "signs." People will analyze one another, judging the experiences of their peers based on their OWN experiences. Assuming someone feels an unspoken connection and then makes the assumption they want a relationship. Assuming someone is interested in a relationship at all. Assuming you are someone's order, when in reality you are simply on the menu. The truth will always come to light because the truth is reinforced by facts. So bring your assumptions to the light, because they cannot be proven fact unless they are TRUE assumptions. The easiest way to find out the truth behind an assumption is to simply ask, and communicate. Denial is a common reason why people will often refuse to ask. Recognize if you are in denial, put a light on yourself and bring your feelings out into the open. Recognize that your thoughts and emotions are not necessarily reality. Your assumptions are created by your expectations, which is a recipe for disaster because in life not everything can go as expected. People are always going to change their opinions about one another. Eventually people grow apart and their feelings for one another die off and fade away. It is self destructive behavior to ignore this fact in order to believe the assumption that no matter what your partner is supposed to feel the same about you. That is setting an expectation that simply isn't realistic, and the results of this are never going to be as anticipated. Deciding how other people should feel or react always ends in the same feeling of betrayal and disappointment. So why selectively choose a set of expectations that cannot be met? It's because people do not want to face the reality that not all things can be predicted, and that ultimately is the problem. The solution lies in learning to understand your own emotions, because they are energy in motion, an ever changing flow. Love and Light
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